I'm not a spinster (yet)

By now, the quarter-life crisis is no longer just a fad, it’s a real issue. Finding a decent job after graduation seems like a miracle that only a few of us can pull off nowadays. As a 25-year-old Bengali girl, it gets even worse. All my life, I’ve been prepped by my parents to be molded into marriage material. Armed with a college education and a decent career (finally), the only things left to do, according to them, is get married, have babies and oh, yeah, go to grad school. The pressure to get married is different than what I had imagined it would be. My parents are now urging me to go out there and find someone on my own, as long as they fit the bill of what they would want. While I don’t enjoy being pushed and pitied for being 25 years old and single, I don’t exactly mind pursuing the arranged marriage route. The system has changed and my generation is no longer forced to make a decision after one meeting. Several meeting, months, sometimes years are allowed. 

But, now my parents have given up on me and moved onto my 23-year-old sister. 

How does that make me feel? A little neglected and a little angry. I’m not old, as they seem to think I am, but they sure make me feel like it since they’ve given up any hope of me continuing on with my life. I want the best for my sister and if she did happen to meet someone, I would be happy for her (although personally I think she’s definitely not ready for marriage). But, I want my parents to give us both a little breathing space. Let things happen naturally–a concept my mother can’t seem to grasp.

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I’m not a spinster (yet)

By now, the quarter-life crisis is no longer just a fad, it’s a real issue. Finding a decent job after graduation seems like a miracle that only a few of us can pull off nowadays. As a 25-year-old Bengali girl, it gets even worse. All my life, I’ve been prepped by my parents to be molded into marriage material. Armed with a college education and a decent career (finally), the only things left to do, according to them, is get married, have babies and oh, yeah, go to grad school. The pressure to get married is different than what I had imagined it would be. My parents are now urging me to go out there and find someone on my own, as long as they fit the bill of what they would want. While I don’t enjoy being pushed and pitied for being 25 years old and single, I don’t exactly mind pursuing the arranged marriage route. The system has changed and my generation is no longer forced to make a decision after one meeting. Several meeting, months, sometimes years are allowed. 

But, now my parents have given up on me and moved onto my 23-year-old sister. 

How does that make me feel? A little neglected and a little angry. I’m not old, as they seem to think I am, but they sure make me feel like it since they’ve given up any hope of me continuing on with my life. I want the best for my sister and if she did happen to meet someone, I would be happy for her (although personally I think she’s definitely not ready for marriage). But, I want my parents to give us both a little breathing space. Let things happen naturally–a concept my mother can’t seem to grasp.

Corporate-Happy

It’s week three of my brand spankin’ new job and I’m happy. I had forgotten what corporate perks, a steady paycheck and health benefits felt like! 

I think I’ll always struggle with the indecision of whether I want the creative freedom of a full-time journalist or the easier lifestyle of a media employee but I think I can achieve a happy medium with this position. My duties consist of web production, writing and editing web copy and press material as well as marketing/public relations. It’s a good mix and not too far from the  work I was doing at online magazines, so I don’t  think it would be too hard to get back into the magazine world. Although, at this point, I can’t really imagine why I would want to (but that might change)!

I will continue freelance writing and blogging part-time. 

So, that’s the game plan: interactive marketing producer by day, freelance writer and blogger by night!

I'm not a sellout

With magazine journalism down in the dumps, many journalists and editors are looking at alternative career paths but I never thought I’d be one of them. It’s certainly not uncommon for editors and writers to make the switch to public relations, marketing, advertising or corporate communications but I always saw this as a last resort (as if these fields are any easier to break into).  I just accepted a full-time position with a major beauty company as a producer in the online marketing division.

And I couldn’t be happier. It’s been a few days since I started working and I’m absolutely loving it. My salary jumped up considerably, I have benefits and all the free and discounted beauty products I could want!

Gotta dash off to bed, but will fill in more about my job in a later post.

I’m not a sellout

With magazine journalism down in the dumps, many journalists and editors are looking at alternative career paths but I never thought I’d be one of them. It’s certainly not uncommon for editors and writers to make the switch to public relations, marketing, advertising or corporate communications but I always saw this as a last resort (as if these fields are any easier to break into).  I just accepted a full-time position with a major beauty company as a producer in the online marketing division.

And I couldn’t be happier. It’s been a few days since I started working and I’m absolutely loving it. My salary jumped up considerably, I have benefits and all the free and discounted beauty products I could want!

Gotta dash off to bed, but will fill in more about my job in a later post.